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While you were sleeping

During the day I inevitably lose my temper with the kids. The daily nagging to put shoes on, eat dinner, brush teeth, read a book, pick up toys and stay in bed are constant battles which take me from a serene mama to an impatient foot tapping harpy.

But the children and I are used to this by now and our daily battles to get ready on time and do as were told are now part and parcel of what makes our days, ours.

I do wish though, that I could share with them more of the peaceful moments, those times of the day which make every dinner uneaten, school shirt ruined, Lego stepped on and mean word worth it.

Every night, long after they’re asleep, I step in their bedroom and watch their chests move up and down, making sure both are okay. I’ll tuck them under blankets, squeeze a toe, poke a nose and hold a hand just to have some connection with them, knowing they are safe and well.

sleep tight

There will come a time, eventually, when I wont have to nag them to get dressed or brush their teeth. I will no longer step into their bedroom at night to check on them. I wont kiss a squishy cheek nor feel fingers curl around my own, until then I plan to enjoy the daily battles and the precious night time moments.

Hints of Spring

I am an eternal procrastinator.

I’d been avoiding three hyacinth bulbs for a few weeks, I’m never really sure what to do with indoor bulbs, so I just ignored them and hoped they would somehow plant themselves.

spring bulbs

Thankfully Lucy from Capture by Lucy provided some much needed inspiration and I finally tackled the bulbs.

Whilst my little pails aren’t as eye catching as vintage egg cups, I at least got a few new bowls  turned and finally planted the bulbs.

bowls and bulbs

It’s still incredibly dull with a splash of mud in the garden so I picked up a few more daffodils to brighten up the house, I for one can not wait until Spring finally takes hold and starts infusing the garden with colour.

spring daffs

daffs

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Paddling By The Pier

My days are always made better with the simple things; this week I managed to catch sunrise and lowtide, a double winner for this beach lovin’ mama, alas the kids weren’t with me to enjoy it because of that nusance called school. Ah well, only 2 two weeks until half term.

paddle by the pier

If you look closely you can see two paddle boarders on the other side of the pier, it looked so much fun!

my sunday

 

The One Thing Every Parent To-Be Needs

So many books, magazine articles, blog post and well intending friends will impart their knowledge with you as to what you will need when embarking upon the terrifying yet rewarding journey that is parenting.

But, there is one vital item always missing.

A bigger bed.

messy bed

Not because you’re about to indulge in lots of monkey sex, but because your kids will no doubt claim your bed as theirs. Either to sleep in, jump on or as a resting place for all their teddy bears, it will be theirs.

You can survive without a moses basket, a bottle warmer, nappy stacker and a wipe warmer, what you can’t live without is a bigger bed.

Well you can, but sleep wont ever be comfortable again.

This lesson really hit home last weekend when my bed was invaded by my 6 year old twins.

Not once but twice.

It was 2:37am early Saturday morning and Ahren had a bad dream, which some how resulted in him and his brother clambering in to my bed to tell me all about MineCraft and digging for some sparkly crystal or something.

And dinosaurs; how do they know when they need to poo?

And breakfast; bacon or pancakes?

As is typical of children, they fell asleep whilst I spent the next few hours clinging to the edge of the mattress, shivering under a tiny corner of the duvet, whilst wincing from the constant kicking of little feet in the small of back and trying not to scream at the person attached to the hand which kept whacking me in the face.

Thankfully hubs had fallen asleep on the sofa or I’d have ended up falling out of bed!

The next night, we had the same thing. Except this time it was just Ahren, and a little bit closer to 3am. He managed to snuggle his way between his daddy and I, shove my head off my pillow and once again leave me clinging to the edge of the mattress whilst he spread out and got comfy. As he pulled funny faces at me and poked my nose, I wondered why the hell we hadn’t purchased a bigger bed.

So, rather than contribute funds to their future education or therapy, I shall start a Bigger Bed Fund, because there really isn’t room in my bed for four people, even in two of them are shorter than me.

Ignoring The Experts

Another week and another parenting meltdown, this time about sleep and and when, according to an expert, your baby should be doing it.

In this day and age I’m surprised that anyone is listening to so called experts, especially when it comes to raising children, children who the expert has never met and knows nothing about.

I’ve been mama to Ahren and Ethan for almost 7 years and I’m not an expert in how to parent them; as soon as I think I have this parenting thing nailed, they go and change the rules and we have to start over. And that’s okay, being a parent is all about learning; about yourself, your partner and your children.

So no, no I wont and never will listen to any so called expert about how I should or shouldn’t be raising my children.

Allowing my children to cry it out, using disposable nappies and drinking formula didn’t make me a bad mother, likewise wearing your baby, breastfeeding and using cloth nappies doesn’t make you a better parent.

It just makes us parents.

There is no expert that can tell you how to raise your children, gut instinct and communicating with your child are key to finding a balance which works for your family.

Perhaps your child did sleep through from an early age, or maybe the kid is 4 and still having unsettled nights, neither scenario is a reflection on you as a parent.

1 day old

We all know to ignore the well meaning advice from Aunt Maud and her hoard of many cats, yet we continue to allow ourselves to get het up by the opinions of a stranger!

As we strive to retain some sense of individuality once we become parents, we need to remember that our children are individuals too, and should be treated as such, what works for one won’t always work for another.

And that’s okay.

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